How many times have we allowed fear to rule our thoughts when it comes to love?
You don’t until you give it a chance, which means giving him (and the budding relationship) the benefit of the doubt before you start putting up your defenses. Instead of breaking things off with him, or deciding to let things just be “casual” though you want more, or confronting him to make decisions RIGHT NOW of how he feels about you – stop. Take a breath. Get centered and ask yourself, “am I freaking out right now because I’ve been hurt by someone in the past? Am I letting fear make all of my decisions for me?”
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Kelly is a freelance writer based in Los Angeles, CA. She blogs about dating, relationships, personal growth and what "healthy living" means to her. You can follow her on Google+, Twitter @kellyseal or through her website www.kellyseal.com.
Aaron Anderson says
Yeah, too many people live their life out of fear instead of embracing the uncertainty and feeling confident within themselves that they can overcome whatever challenges arise. That includes in love, too. Love is a scary thing to give your heart to someone who can hurt it. But the secret is to have confidence in yourself that you are capable of handling a bad situation and be okay in the end. Time to stop loving out of fear. Great article!
Single Dating Diva says
This world is a potentially scary place and we can’t let that take over our thoughts and lives. Dating definitely falls into the realm of fear because it involves taking chances and risking heartache and rejection. But it’s all about perspective and you’re right, lessons learned are worth it all and will bring you to where you need, and want, to be. Great post!
Q says
Great post! Fear keeps a lot of great relationships from happening. Hanging on to the “ghost of relationships past” is a sure way to ruin future opportunities. Sometimes you just have to make dating something fun to do with hopes that something will turn into something real.
Ms. Cheevious says
Now… this is making the assumption that I am human, thus having fears, right? Pffff!!! I’m a super-human… 🙂
Ms. Cheevious says
And great post by the way. You’re absolutely right. People need to get out of their fears and inhibitions and be willing to take risks.
Sex Dating says
Having a fear is normal co’z were human. But living in it is not normal. It can lead to anxiety disorder. Thanks for posting this article. Very educational. 🙂