I was thinking about gold-diggers the other day. What comes to mind are women who spend their days at the spa and leave child-rearing and careers to nannies and husbands. I have little patience and respect for these women. But is there another form of gold-digging that’s not so obvious?
I know many successful, ambitious women. They love their careers. They make money. However, when it comes to dating, they only want men who make a good living, preferably who make more money than they do. Fair enough I guess. Since they make money, they want their SOs to make money too. But isn’t this a form of financial discrimination? What’s wrong with women being the breadwinners?
If they met a man who was willing to stay at home to take care of children, or who wasn’t so interested in making money and growing his career (since he was quite happy staying a bartender or barista the rest of his life), would they even consider him husband material? My guess is that eventually most would end up resenting him and wishing he’d be more ambitious and successful. No, they would want someone with a real career and prospects and money. There’s a need for financial stability. Maybe status, too.
Or perhaps many women aren’t being honest…and would chuck their careers to stay home and raise a family. They are just looking for a man who can provide as well as they do.
I’ve always worked (at least since high school), so it was hard for me to date someone who wasn’t ambitious. Not that I went out with MoneyBucks McGee, but at least the guys I dated had plans and were working towards building their empires, whether it was becoming a doctor, marketing executive, or producer. They had their sh*t together, and knew what they wanted. I found that sexy.
But was I filtering out the other potentially great guys because of my financial requirements?
It’s a tough question. I always say keep an open mind and date people you wouldn’t normally date. I’m not a hypocrite, but I wouldn’t date a guy who made less than I did. Financial security was always an important requirement for me. So maybe I am a hypocrite.
What are your thoughts? Would you consider a man boyfriend or husband material if he had no career ambition? If he preferred to spend afternoons surfing or gardening, just enjoying his hobbies? If he had no $ or plans to make some?