Who can deny that there’s something inherently sexy about an artist?
Let’s be scientific about it for a sec. Studies have shown that a guy carrying a guitar is much more likely to get a date than a man without a musical prop. Why? Because many women find music – and musicians – sexy. But if you take that further, it can apply to any creative pursuit. Artists, writers, dancers, or even tech moguls who developed the next greatest app. (Though you can’t really walk around with an app over your shoulder.) But still…sexy…just hot.
As humans, we gravitate towards creativity. Because, hotness.
Seriously, why do we pursue creative types? Are we looking for inspiration, some kind of outside stimulation to shake us out of our current circumstances, or just to witness beauty? I dunno. But I do think on some level we are all creative spirits. And it’s attractive to see people who can bring an idea to life, to make it a real thing in the world. It’s the highest form of self-expression.
Chances are, if you want to date someone who’s creative, you have a creative side, too. Maybe it’s time to unleash your inner artist and see what happens in your love life. You can be inspiring; it is your choice.
Following are 5 ways to spark creativity and improve your love life:
Move.
Yep, it’s true: walking makes those creative juices flow. When you feel stuck, physical movement has been proven to help provide inspiration. It also helps you to avoid being stuck in negative thought patterns. If you’re feeling hopeless about your romantic life, try a dance class, or go for a walk in nature, ride your bike, or do some stretches. Pick something you enjoy. It alters your perspective, provides a dose of serotonin to help improve your mood, and inspires you to try other new things you might not have otherwise.
Break with your routine.
Do you have the same weekday schedule, or take the same route to work? This week, try something different. Instead of going to the gym, go for a run; try a new route to work and grab a coffee in a new neighborhood along the way. When you break out of your habits, you begin to notice things, you become more aware of your surroundings. You can also become more aware of others, and expand your social circles. And we all know – our environments inform our perspective, so change it up!
Get a paintbrush or pen.
If you’re afraid to draw, write, or create something tangible – it’s time to give yourself permission to say “who cares?” Nobody is going to critique your work unless you ask, so why not try your hand at painting, sketching, journaling, or anything else that call to you. There’s nothing wrong with exploring a new pursuit, and you might get a lot of enjoyment out of it. If you want to be social, join paint and wine gatherings with other adults. Crayons are not just for pre-schoolers.
Experience art.
When was the last time you visited an art gallery, attended a concert, or watched an experimental dance troupe? If you haven’t done much of this in the last few years, it’s time to invest time and money and immerse yourself in creative experiences. Netflix is fine, but there’s nothing that compares to being in a new place, with a crowd and experiencing creativity in person. The best part? It’s a good way to meet an online date – you can enjoy an experience together, which gives you something to talk about.
Change your entertainment habits.
Are you used to listening to podcasts, or reading, or watching TV? I challenge you to try a new platform. Instead of reading thrillers, try and listen to a couple of storytelling podcasts, like The Moth or This American Life. Or instead of playing video games, try reading a memoir. The more you can mix up your sources of entertainment, the more you’ll find your creative side opening up, and the more you’ll have to talk about on your dates.
Creativity enriches our lives in so many ways (think of your favorite song, and how it makes you feel). At one time, it was only a thought, but somebody brought it to life so anyone could enjoy it.
It’s time we all embrace our inner musician, artist, writer, dancer, or American Ninja Warrior. There are so many choices to express ourselves and find enjoyment in others’ artistic expressions. Creativity is a way to connect with each other, especially in intimate relationships.
XO,
Kelly
About Kelly Seal
Kelly is a freelance writer based in Los Angeles, CA. She blogs about dating, relationships, personal growth and what "healthy living" means to her. You can follow her on Google+, Twitter @kellyseal or through her website www.kellyseal.com.
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