“There is a time in our lives, usually in mid-life, when a woman has to make a decision – possibly the most important psychic decision of her future life – and that is, whether to be bitter or not.”
― Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype
I came across this quote recently and it struck me – I have been this woman, waiting on the precipice where I could become bitter and hardened to love. It didn’t happen in my mid-life, it happened when I turned 30 and thought my life would look a lot different than it did. I had just had my heart broken. Then it happened again at 33, 35, and so on.
Now I know that happiness depends on my belief in it – despite my past break-ups, heartache, and uncertainty – everything else. Hope and love are things that I cling to.